Updated: 08/13/2021
Making a guy cum can be so pleasurable, not just for them but for you as well. Being able to turn him on by just suggesting a hand or blow job and seeing the pleasure in his eyes in the first few seconds is something a lot of women value.
However, it can sometimes begin to feel like a chore if he doesn’t cum very quickly and your mouth starts to ache and your mind begins to wander and before you know it you are wishing for him to just hurry up and cum, and the mood just feels totally ruined.
For me making my partner cum quickly isn’t about getting it over and done with, oh no, it’s about giving him so much pleasure that he just can’t hold on any longer and he just has to cum. That sort of power and skill is electrifying and I wanted to share it with you all.
So I made this article. All about making a guy cum and cum quickly he shall.
I love making my partner cum quickly, there’s something about it that just turns me on and I am going to share my tips with you. Things that I do to make any guy cum fast, efficiently and intensely.
If you’re looking to make him cum fast during sex, (you should check out this: How To Make Your Vagina Tighter) all of the tension and build-up from these tips will work too!
How To Make Him Cum In Minutes:

Let Him Know He Can Cum
This may seem obvious but some men can get shy about cumming especially if you’re giving him a blowjob. If it’s a new relationship or just a hook up be sure to tell him that it’s okay to cum in your mouth or not okay, whatever the case may be.
Tell him that you want him to cum and that it will really turn you on when he does. I don’t know the science as to why this works but it does and it helps the guy relax and feel at ease. It may seem silly but women need to be relaxed to be able to orgasm and usually, so does a guy. So make him feel comfortable, let him know you want to pleasure him, tell him to let you know what he likes, and be sure to let him know that you want him to cum.
Letting him know that you want him to be at ease and feeling pleasure, is a huge turn-on, and if he’s into that kind of talk, it will probably speed up the climax by about 70%. It really is such a simple trick and it even works long into a relationship, the turn-on is instant if you tell your partner you want to make them happy and feel their cum on you/in you. Make him feel wanted and if you are a particularly kinky couple check out these sex kits, you can use things from them to restraint and tease your partner even more so, making him beg for your touch.
Giving Him The Most Incredible Blow Job
It’s no secret that 99% of men prefer blowjobs over handjobs so if you’re willing to do it, give him the best blowjob he has ever had in his life.
Don’t be shy about really getting into it. Moaning slightly, a little eye contact, be enthusiastic, and just letting go when sucking his dick and doing what feels right, will not only probably turn you on, he will most likely cum there and then. To make it even better, ask him what he likes or would like you to try, it may be that he loves the tip of his penis having all focus, it may be that he likes spit or loves having his balls played with, you just have to ask.
Remember that making a guy cum fast isn’t about bobbing or thrusting as fast as you can, it’s a skill and one that doesn’t require you to furiously pump away at his penis.
However, here are some, even more, tips that I use to make any guy come really fast whilst still making sure they have an incredible orgasm:
Use Lube:
This lube is an absolute lifesaver when it comes to blowjobs. It feels incredible for the man as it mimics the body’s natural lubrication and it is so natural, so you know exactly what you are putting into your mouth. I wrote a whole article about it if you are interested in the specifics of this natural lube.
I am going to talk about making his penis ‘wet’ a bit further on in this article but, for now, know that using a little lubrication will change your whole blowjob game entirely.
Add a small amount to your hands and warm it up by rubbing your hands together before applying it to his penis. Lather it on with your hands and just watch his eyes roll back into this head as you move your hands up and down his penis, it takes handjobs to another level, by using lube there’s no friction on his penis and it allows your hand to just glide. During a blowjob, it just adds an extra layer of lubrication and it feels wonderful for him.
Get Some Deep Throat Spray:
Deep-throating feels out of this world (so I am told) however, most of us have a gag reflex that will detonate a very unattractive human bodily function should it be poked and prodded one too many times. Many people shy away from deep throating as it leads to gagging but there is a little miracle that can prevent that.
This Deep throat spray is inexpensive and will allow you to perform the most amazing deep-throated blowjobs imaginable. The spray numbs the back of your throat (temporarily!), thus numbing your gag reflex for some time. I have a pretty bad gag reflex but with this stuff working at the back of my throat, I can take a dick down without even a problem. That deep-throating sensation for him is revolutionary and will send his dick into overdrive.
If you are able to use the lube technique (adding a modest amount to his dick), the deep throat technique, and maintain tongue techniques and rhythm, this man will cum so fast.
Deep Throat Technique:
Going straight in for the kill by deepthroating his cock instantly will higher the time in which he climaxes. Yes, he will cum and it’ll feel great for him but without a little teasing and foreplay, it will take longer for him to cum which is what we are trying to prevent. Make sure to tease him and his dick before going in for the deep throat technique.
You can do this by slowly flicking, sucking and licking the head of his penis, running your tongue up and down his shaft and if he likes it, by playing with his balls. You can ask him dirty questions (do you want my pretty mouth to suck your cock?), keep him on his toes as much as possible before deepthroating. Teasing his cock and getting him on the edge is key.
Once he just can’t take your teasing much longer, insert his penis into your mouth as far down as you can and maintain a quick up and down the rhythm, using your tongue too, making sure your teeth are firmly out of the way, he will orgasm, hard and fast.
Make It Wet:
Making his penis wet and slippery will seriously make him ejaculate into oblivion. Using the lube technique I mentioned before, glide your slippery hands over his member and tease the tip of his penis.
It feels incredible and actually makes the blowjob a lot more pleasurable for both of you too. I also recommend my most-used flavored lube for this step as it makes it more pleasurable for you as you get a tasty, sweet treat.
Use Your Hands:
Don’t forget to use your hands during a blowjob. Use them to play with his balls and/or to move his member up and down in time with your sucking. If you add in some lube to this step, from the second you touch him his dick will go wild with sensation. Once his dick is in your mouth, using your hands to stimulate his shaft and balls will feel incredible for him.
Giving Him An Amazing Handjob
If you or he isn’t into blowjobs, don’t worry. A handjob is also a sure way of making a guy cum quickly. You just need good rhythm, technique, and teasing abilities. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t going to blow him, a wet slippery handjob is amazing so be sure to add lube (this one lasts for ages) to make it amazing for him.
Lubrication is your friend:
Just like during the blowjob, lubrication is a major deal-breaker. A warm, slippery, wet hand feels so much better than dry friction.
You only need a small amount and if you ever never used it during a handjob before, you will notice the huge difference it makes to the way he responds to each touch.
Amazing Blowjob Techniques:
Get him to tell you beforehand what he likes. Does he like it quickly? slow? ball play? Communication is key to a great orgasm.
Respond to his body, play with the tip of his penis and if you want an extra quick orgasm, tease him beforehand. You can do this by grabbing his penis and then not touching it, you can do this also by teasing him on the outside of his underwear, and so on.

Some More Tips On Making Him Cum Quickly…
Just like women, there are some things that drive men wild, below are my last tips on helping you make him cum in record-breaking time.
Let Him Feel Your Body
A lot of women forget to use their own bodies during a blow or handjobs. When giving him a handjob, kiss his neck, let him feel your intimate areas, and respond to his touch. For instance, if you’re kissing his neck, guide his hand to your pussy or breasts, let him play with you. Grind up on his cock and then slowly make your way down, kissing his chest and stomach all the way.
Playing With The Balls
If he likes it, this should drive him insane. Some men have never ever tried it and insist they don’t like it but it’s usually a sure way to making him cum.
Gently caress, lick, stroke and suck on his balls whilst maintaining a good handjob rhythm. Don’t be shy and if you see him squirm or not like it, stop. Adding in ball play will give him a whole new sensation to deal with that will make his penis even more sensitive to your touch.
Be Sure To Tease Him
Just like I mentioned before, teasing is key to good foreplay and a good, happy orgasm. Touch him throughout the day without allowing him to cum, get him hot and really in the mood, and refuse to allow him to cum. It really is a huge turn-on for a lot of guys and you will be surprised at how quickly he will cum if he has been teased and built up for some time. You can even tease him with a specifically male sex toy and not let him cum.
Be Enthusiastic About Sex And Pleasuring Him
Just like as if a guy going down on you who wasn’t really into it wouldn’t feel great, it’s the same for men. If you’re not up for it, you have no obligation to do anything but, if you’re into having sex or giving oral sex, really be enthusiastic.
Nothing’s a bigger turn-on than someone who wants to give you so much pleasure. Groan, play with yourself or even just get really into it and let yourself go. Remember he finds it hot, don’t be shy, confidence is key.
Thank you so much for reading! If you have any tips of your own that you want to add feel free to leave them in the comment section below.
Christina says
Why does my boyfriend take sooooiokk long to nut I’m tired of this bs I just want to be finished faster because it’s tiring and one hell of a workout for my mouth
Kaitlin says
I know right that is exactly how i feel its bs
Blowjob Guide says
Focus on the frenulum with your bottom lip. The frenulum is the ridge of skin on the underside of the penis. It’s VERY sensitive and basically the male equivalent of the g-spot. Flavoured lube as suggested in this article can really help too. If it’s enjoyable for you, it’s probably enjoyable for him.
I hate white people says
Finger his asshole he will love it indeed
Alley says
Let him tell you about past enjoyable relationships while sucking him you will be surprised if he can trust you he will open up my mate has revealed he’s done it with his best friends as a teen and other girls it’s a turn on to him and you if your not a jelous mate. And don’t use it against him. My mate loves talking about his past male experiences. It brings him up super fast.
Jade says
Man I wish it was that easy !!!!
Jay says
Agreed, then pegging
Li Li says
I know this might really offend some people but a big issue here is circumcised men. Most of my long term relationships have been with guys who are intact (uncircumcised) and the sex is a lot better. I am sorry, I’m not trying to offend anyone! It’s really clear to me in my current relationship that he literally just doesn’t feel as much and takes a lot more time and much more aggressive motions to get off. It gets a bit brutal, idk what else to say cept for really give it some thought before doing it to your kids.
Vorgasms says
Thanks so much for your comment. That was really interesting for me to read as I have always found absolutely no obvious difference during sex with the two different types and I know a lot of friends who actually prefer a circumcised penis during sex. However, everyone has their opinions and knows what they like so thanks for your insight it’s really appreciated. xx
Kaylani says
Nah I agree with you. Uncircumsised feels wayy better.
babe says
I am with a uncircumcised man right now who has a hard time Cumming any suggestions?
Ricco says
I had to tell my partner and take her through the steps , I told her what I like and how I like it and it took a while but soon enough in nutted and everything was good afterwords ….
Jingle says
Seriously though it’s like my jaw hurts after I need advice so bad
James Harwell says
I have a problem cuming. In fact I can’t cum at all and I no longer want to have sex with my wife but I love her more than life itself. The problem is that when it comes to sex she is just not turned on by me, she has even told me that “I don’t get HORNY”. That is not something that a wife should tell her husband. I’m 60 and she is 64 and we have been married 42 years. I’m no Fabio but I’m not a dog either. I have always been self conscious about my all over appearance and try to maintain my body as best I can. I look pretty good for a 60 year old man and she tells me that I look better than any 60 year old that she ha ever seen but she has no interest in sex. I came out of her own mouth, I don’t get HORNY”. If you want to turn your man off just tell him that or just act in such a way that makes him think that he no longer lites your fire. After her telling me that I have thought about it and I now realize that I never did turn her on, not even whe we were young. Why did she marry me? I don’t know she is beautiful, like a movie star and could have had any man. Maybe sex has never been that important to her and she really did and still does love me but she should never have told me that she didn’t get horny. It turns me off and hurts my feelings every time I think about it. And no man can cum fast or slow when he feels like that. If your man is having trouble cuming maybe he is getting bad vibes from you.
Samantha says
Talk to her about trying new things! Focus on pleasing her at first, so that she will be interested in pleasing you so that you can both be pleased! Getting your wife off will make her not only want to be physical with you, but should turn you on as well! Perhaps she has had previous past sexual relationships where she did not feel pleased and the man focused more on himself than her. Good luck, not all hope is lost! I’m sure you are a very good looking man and it sounds like some more in depth communication could rejuvenate your sex life 🙂
chatl says
Gutsy thing to post – you’re not alone – but you’ve been married so long, it’s about time to be honest with her. You posted it here, tell her. And like the things Samantha says. Give her a good hand job (women love them), kiss her on the cheek, say I love you and go cut the grass. Trust me on this 😉
Dana says
Your wife appears to be experiencing frigidity, which means she may have emotional trauma or blockages that keep her from desiring and/or enjoying sex. This can most likely be resolved with 6-12 months’ therapy if you’re both willing to take on the challenge of addressing this issue.
Kylie says
A vibrator against the premium and he will cum embarrassingly fast guranteed.
Joe says
Depends. It could be several reasons:
1. He’s masturbating too much
Again, reasons vary. And it’s not always selfish. Sometimes guys realize that they want more sex than their partner, so they try to take care of things themselves rather than overwhelming their SO. But, the point is, the more often you cum, the longer it takes you in general. If you think this might be the problem, just try stepping up the sexual activity a bit. Just remember that you don’t get it both ways. If you want him to cut down on the masturbation but you’re only letting him hit it once every two weeks and you don’t really want to have more sex, that’s not realistic nor fair.
2. You’re technique sucks (any of the tips in this article will definitely help).
3. You’re approaching it as work, or you don’t really give a shit.
I mean, at least you’re doing it, and I applaud that, but if you honestly don’t enjoy it, or you’re going into it with an attitude of “let’s get this over as quickly as possible,“ then, I mean, of course he’s not going to be super turned-on. And this will influence number #2 above as well. So many people – both men and women – want their partners to say they’re satisfied, but they don’t want to put in any effort, and this is like anything else in life: if you want it to be good, you have to be willing to work at it.
Alisha says
So, I have TMJ and I love giving my husband Bj’s but he takes so long and unfortunately I can only go for a short amount of time because of my jaw. (It will seriously click and lock up if I go too long lol Pretty paintful and kinda of a moodkiller). Unsurprisingly its hard to act super into it when my jaw is just crying in pain anytime I have to hold my mouth open for very long. 🙁 But being able to get him to finish like this is amazing and i always love it, so it makes me sad that it’s getting harder and harder for me. What can I do?
Spypunch says
You could go as long as you can then finish up with a well lubed hand job. also, not sure what, but you can see in porn all over the place these days that giving head fast, super sloppy, and making sounds as though his cock was gagging you seems to be the in hing and really is a turn on.
Pailin Grier says
Kay so I’m new to the whole fucking thing and my boyfriend masterbates a lot so it makes him take forever and a damn day to nut so what should I do to not make him want to masterbate so much?
And my mouth would be very thankful
Vorgasms says
Honestly, I would just try talking to him about it and let him know that it makes your mouth ache. Perhaps he could try not masturbating the days before he is going to see you? Just talk to him x x
Tiffany Walker says
I have a saliva issue, I don’t like it. And I know the wetter the better and I can deep throat with no problem and I don’t gag however with the saliva it makes me gag to the point Of puking. And I use my hand and he likes that but hes not big on that he obviously prefers my mouth but the issue is just all the saliva and and going up-and-down and the saliva just hitting my lips Especially at the base bc it’s cold and I just have a big issue with it so I have to keep stopping to swallow the saliva which is basically like starting all over again and he is the 1st guy I have not been able to get to come orally and I really want to and I’ve tried to get past this issue but I haven’t been able to. Every other guy it hasn’t been an issue because when I stopped to swallow I use my hand but because this guy is it the biggest fan of the hand like I said he prefers the mouth it is an issue. Do you have any advice or suggestions?
spypunch says
As with my previous response tired mouths, remember that the acting is as important as the show; that is, make a sloppy, noisy blow job and, in your saliva case, one awesme thing you can do that really turn us on is the partner giving it be noise, nasty and sloppy — dont swallow the saliva spit it out on to his cock and then part time the job with a few second hand job to spread it around on the cock.
Chelsea says
I recommend getting flavored lube so it doesnt gross you out so much. Maybe if it could taste different then you may not feel so awkward. If that doesnt work you could try normal lube and making the handjob better? Hope this helps!
Erica H. says
I find that using my hand and laying next to him licking hisvnipples and bitimg…helps a pain and pleasure thing.
Also finger in his Navel and exploring his body not just concentrating on his Penis makes him feel sexy and desired(at least I hope so)
And remembwe ticking his testicles during oral sex or handjob goes a long way for quicker results….
I loved this article thankyou.
Heather says
Alright, my husband has some clean freak issues ocd. First, he has to wear gloves, doesnt like lotion or anything wet on his skin. He takes about 2 hours to get off. And it has to be in a rubber away from me. After, 3 years i got him used to blow jobs, but he gets soft if they are too wet. I wish i did not have waited f marriage, all this is frustrating. Plus, he will use licks on me as well.
Jade says
Okay okay ladies listen up! there is nothing wrong with over powering men during sex.. hell, you should tell him when to flip over or when to get on top cause nothing is more hotter then a women taking the reigns!! TRY NEW POSITIONS EVERY TIME YOU HAVE SEX!! that’s a key we tend to miss cause then you get bored of the same old position..lastly, toys! I know you can be shy at first to even ask, but I’m talking sex toy for him.. u ever tried a 🐓 ring. Better put that on ur wish list.. and for the ladies vibrating panties. Slip them on give him the remote. And let the magic begin
Some good pointer from me to my beautiful queens out there 💋
Ericka c says
I Deep throat suck him a good hour made him cum once he gets 7 7 half inches so I can Deep throat
Chelsea says
My boyfriend is VERY tickleish with his balls but something good I do when giving him head is 1. Breathe through your nose 2. Let his dic k go under my tongue and to the roof of my mouth, feels good for him and is less gag reflexing also not as wearing on my jaw! Something you should also do is ASK HIM what he wants! All guys are different some like slow relaxing movement and other like rough ones. Some like deepthroat and others might like you to lick the head. And same goes for you getting head. You don’t need to feel dumb for not knowing. Also when my mouth gets really sore I add in a good handjob trick, put his penis to the back of your throat to make you gag, only to get some more lubrication then when hes hard and slippery I tighten my hand into an O shape like pretty small and i quickly push his dick through it and loosen my hand gentle as I go. I do it over and over and every guy I’ve done it to loved it great trick if youre not the best at handjobs!
Keisha says
I love to get my ass spank but he don’t do it unless I tell him to. I don’t want to tell him just spank my ass.
Faith says
I love giving him bj…but it take hours to cum…what do I do
Jack J says
I cum quickly and easily in the dark but am too embarrassed about my penis when my lady can see it! I can’t even get an erection! I hate my penis.. it’s too small and has a big bend in it when erect.. I just can’t perform knowing that she can see what i can see..
Robert Martino says
I need help cant cum//
PALMTREE979onKik says
As a transgender woman I know all there is to know about penises. Not only have I sucked one several (a lot) but I still have one myself so I know what it takes to get my men off. If you’ve read this article, you should have some very good tips to apply to your next blowjob session! Almost 100% of my men have said I give them the best head ever.
One of my signature moves is wrapping my lips around his swollen head and as it’s inside my mouth I flick my tongue side to side at the frenulum where the skin connects to the underside of his glands head. The frenulum is a highly erogenous spot for the man and I guarantee this will drive your man INSANE. I alternate doing this move and deep-throating, inching my way down his shaft. Once I get to a deep throat position I repeat this technique moving my tongue side to side under his shaft in the deep throat position; applying pressure with my tongue to the underside of his shaft as I move it side to side. This will ROCK his world and usually make him cum.