Updated: 09/11/2020

Today I wanted to write about something a little different. We love sex toys here but we do understand that it can sometimes be incredibly difficult to know which sex toy you should be buying.

Usually what works for most people will work for you but I feel like there’s more to it than that. I think you should love everything to do with your sex toy, from the vibrations to the sensations and all the way to the materials used.

So in light of that, today I am going to write one of the most in-depth, raw guides on which simple sex toy is for you and why you will love it.

Which Sex Toy Is Right For You?

I am going to write three different categories, starting with women and then men and then couples. However what works on women will work for some couples and even sometimes some men, the same goes for every category so it would be good to read all three categories so that you can find something perfect and know exactly what will work for you.

Women’s Simple Sex Toy Guide

There are so so so so many sex toys geared towards women, it can actually become slightly overwhelming, even for me. However, I really think my guide will be able to help you.

I want it to be simple and easy to read and digest so I am going to keep simple with the best sex toy in each category and why you may love or hate it, that way you can find exactly what is right for you without having to read pages and pages of content.

Clitoral Stimulation

If you can climax through your clit or even if want to climax through your clit you are going to want a clitoral vibrator. These types of vibrators send delicious sensations to your clit and push you into orgasm heaven.

The absolute best clitoral vibrator is this magic wand vibrator. It’s large but the vibrations it emits are heavenly, you don’t need to worry about batteries, you can use it with your partner and it even doubles as an actual massager.

A clitoral vibrator is held against your clit and the magic wand vibrator gives you the ability to keep on cumming again and again. I can’t rate it enough and if clitoral stimulation is what you love, that vibrator is what you need.

If you really want to spice up your clitoral stimulation game read my review on the womanizer.

G-spot Stimulation

G-spot stimulation is a sex toy that focuses on pushing your g-spot to bring you to orgasm. Some women struggle with g-spot stimulation as it sometimes isn’t as intense as clitoral stimulation, however, if you can cum through sex or even if fingering yourself brings you great pleasure, a sex toy that stimulates your g-spot is for you.

If you love internal stimulation there is nothing better than this internal g-spot stimulation dildo.

Combined G-spot and Clitoral Stimulation

There are incredibly nifty sex toys that combine g-spot and clitoral stimulation, this is ideal for those who love both kinds of stimulation and those who want to experiment with both.

This is my favorite combined clitoral and g-spot sex toy, it provides you with unreal pleasure and both g-spot and clitoral orgasms which is an ideal scenario for so many women.

Internal Stimulation (No vibration)

A dildo is a classic sex toy and if you enjoy realistic internal stimulation, lifelike sensations, and the ability to f**k your sex toy, a classic dildo is for you. This one has a suction cup base so you can secure it to any hard and flat base and enjoy wonderful stimulation without any frills.

I also like to use this suction-cup dildo whilst with my partner, that way we can simulate threesomes (How I simulate a Threesome).

Men’s Simple Sex Toy Guide

Now we move onto simple male sex toys, we chose the most popular male sex toys and put them into these easy peasy categories so that whatever you love you can find the sex toy that is right for you.

Fleshlight (Pussy Simulation)

A fleshlight is a sex toy that is usually in the form of a female pu**y. The pu**y is housed inside a discreet case which you then use to masturbate with. This is the best fleshlight that I can recommend, it’s tight, ribbed, has incredibly realistic detailing and if you enjoy the stimulation that’s a whole step up from handjobs and feels like real sex, a fleshlight is for you.

Aside from fleshlights, there are also things called ‘male masturbators’ these aren’t housed inside a discreet case but are just the same. This is my favorite realistic male masturbator, it’s a great price and utterly wonderful if you’re looking for sex simulation and a great orgasm. Both of these sex toys can be thrust into, used alone, or even with your partner to simulate a threesome.

P-spot stimulation

P-spot stimulation is the art of pushing up against the male P-spot and bringing him to orgasm. The P-spot is located inside his ass and once found you will see just how intense these orgasms can be. They overtake your whole body and provide you with intense, full-body orgasms again and again.

Some men would prefer to stay with penis stimulation and that’s fine but for those who want to branch out I absolutely recommend this p-spot vibrator, it’s easy to use, all you do is sit back on it and let it do the work, just make sure to buy lube with it as it makes all sex toys 10x better.

You can also get a p-spot simulator that doesn’t vibrate (vibrations might not be your thing) and if that’s something that excites you check out this non-vibrating male sex toy.

Sex Doll

A sex doll is quite pricey but if you enjoy intense, realistic stimulation you will love having a sex doll. You can enjoy anal, oral and vaginal sex with a sex doll, live out your wildest fantasies, and if you have a partner you can even live out some of your wildest threesome dreams.

This is my favorite sex doll, she is so incredible to play with, easy to keep clean, and feels so realistic. She is also on sale at the moment which is amazing.

Couples Sex Toy Guide

Couples can incorporate ANY of the sex toys mentioned above in the bedroom, by using the sex toys on your partner, roleplaying and simulating threesomes/different types of scenarios.

However, there are some key sex toys that I wanted to mention that I feel like all couples should be using.

Bullet vibrator

The first thing I want to mention is this small Tracey Cox bullet vibrator, it’s an incredible clitoral stimulator but it is also fantastic at running along your nipples and across his shaft for added stimulation. Hold it on to your clit during sex and use it on one another for some intense foreplay.

It’s an amazing vibrator that can be used for so much stimulation, it’s a must-have if you’re a couple who enjoy direct vibrations.

Cock ring with a vibrator

A cock ring limits the blood flow to the penis and in turn, makes the erection larger and allows you to withhold your orgasm for longer, pair this with a built-in vibrator and we have ourselves a match made in heaven. This cock ring vibrator combo is ideal for couples who want to cum together and experience something special together.

It’s comfortable, very easy to use and a staple in any sex toy collection.

Strap-on

Feeling kinky? A strap-on is an ultimate way to switch up roles, roleplay, explore, and deliver mind-blowing pleasure. Use this beginners strap-on dildo and stimulate the P-spot, become a dom in the bedroom, and try something tantalizingly new.

Strap-ons aren’t for everyone but if you’re a couple looking for something new to do and are ready to explore a new step in your sex lives then a strap-on is for you.

If you want to check out some more strap-ons check out this article on the greatest strap-ons for couples.

Restraints

Restraints aren’t a sex toy but an important sex accessory. These under the bed restraints slip under most beds for discretion and ultimate staying power. Restrain yourself or your partner with the ankle and wrist cuffs and explore sub and dom roles and enjoy the power or submission, depending on which role you choose.

Play with your partner’s body whilst they are restrained using sex toys, give them an intimate massage and enjoy being in control.

Penis extender

Slip this penis extension over your penis and enjoy newfound inches, wearing the penis extender makes it feel like you’re being fu**ed by a new penis and it’s ideal for men who suffer from premature ejaculation.

It’s easy to slip on over your penis and it slips in place thanks to the ball loop. Use lots of lube with this extender and enjoy the new sensations.

App-controlled vibrator

An app-controlled vibrator is revolutionary, slip it inside of you and have your partner control the vibrations from anywhere in the world. It’s ideal for kinky couples who like to get frisky in public (sex toys I like to use in public) and for couples who are in long-distance relationships, heck you can even use it in the bedroom and have your partner control the vibrations whilst sitting right next to you.

It’s definitely a revolutionary sex toy that has been long-awaited by the likes of me and it’s an awesome addition to any sex toy collection and for any couple who enjoy this kind of stimulation.

Where To Buy Good Sex Toys?

I get all of my sex toys from this online sex shop. I trust them 100% and love their discreet packaging, returns system and their amazing customer service.

They are one of the largest online sex toy stores and I buy everything from there and link all of the sex toys I talk about to there as well so you will be re-directed if you want to read up more on any product.