Who doesn’t love the thought of rough, hard sex? I sure do, especially when the sex is good and can be made even better by some simple tips to try out and even some sex toys.
Having rough sex seems easy but if you really want to thrill your partner, give them absolute pleasure and have them screaming your name, I recommend you follow some of my recommendations to really surprise them.
Whilst I do start off with tips on how to introduce rough sex into the bedroom, I do recommend to keep on reading as I show you sex toys that are ideal for those looking into rough sex and how to make their sex life a little kinkier. All of the sex toys I mention are shipped discreetly from one of the biggest sex toy distributors in the world, happy rough sex!
When you’re done also make sure to check out my article on the best thrusting sex toys as I think many of you rough sex lovers will love some of them naughty items.
Talk To Each other
I really do recommend talking to your partner beforehand and making sure they are up for the spanking, the rough thrusting and even the gagging. Some people aren’t up for it and it would be a huge killer if your partner just didn’t like it and you had to stop. So before buying anything, make sure you are both up for trying some friendly rough sex.
Remember to let them know it won’t have to go all fifty shades of grey in 0.2 seconds, these things take time and the build-up and experience of trying new things will be just as exciting.
If you’re new to the world of rough sex and BDSM, start slow. Don’t go in for the kill right away, this may ruin the moment and if you either of you doesn’t enjoy it, it may put you off.
Start slowly by tying yourself or your partner up, caressing them and driving them wild in whatever way you know how.
This would be a good time to use a vibrator or restraints on your partner. If you’re serious about perfecting the whole rough sex routine, you need to have a few tricks up your sleeve.
These are the restraints I really recommend, they slip under your bed and make it impossible for your partner to wriggle away: Under Mattress Restraint Set
Once your partner is warmed up, pull out a flogger or spanker and get the blood flowing and get them really excited.
I recommend this one as it’s perfect for beginners by mighty effective: Tease by Lovehoney Spanking Paddle
Dom or Sub?
For a good rough sex session, you need to establish who is going to be in control, of course, you can switch up roles whenever you want but to start the blood flow and to get really excited, you need to pick who is who.
The submissive is completely submissive to the dominant and is usually restrained and teased ( a lot) through vibrators and other sex toys. The submissive has virtually no control and allows the other to be in complete control of when they orgasm.
The dominant is the one takes full control of the situation. This person decides when it’s time to have sex, when the submissive can orgasm and what the submissive does.
Playing these two roles is extremely fun and you can get really carried away. Always make sure to have a safe word if you are using sex toys, this just makes it easier to not get hurt and ruin your fun.
Talk to each other beforehand and establish what you like and don’t like. Relax and let yourself become your role.
Tips For The Dominant
To really spice this role up, make sure to really take the role seriously.
If your submissive misbehaves, spank them. If your submissive is moaning too much or enjoying it too much, stop and make them beg for you to start again.
Don’t be afraid to pull their hair, lightly slap and tease your submissive. As long as you are both happy with it, all of these things will seriously make it one of the best sex sessions. Rough sex isn’t just about the sex, it’s about the build-up and how you treat your role.
Tips For The Submissive
As I mentioned before, always have a safe word. This ensures that you and your partner can enjoy every second and if it gets a little too rough or you don’t like something, you can discreetly slip out of character momentarily.
If you are the submissive role, you have to submit. Being tied up is part of the protocol and you must behave and do as your dominant says.
Sex Toys Make It
You don’t have to go crazy but a few sex toys can really increase not just your rough sex sessions but your overall sex life.
Investing in a vibrator and a restraint will really change up orgasms in your bedroom and there is so much fun to be had. Nevertheless, I have some top sex toys that I believe really do help make rough sex a lot better and lot kinkier…
If you want something a little kinky, non-intimidating and some soft restraints, I recommend this bondage kit. It will allow your ‘dom’ to take total control of the situation.
This kit contains 5 pieces and everything will be used in its own way. This bondage kit won’t hurt your submissive and is a perfect introductory kit to the world of rough sex and light BDSM. Use it to cuff your submissives wrists and ankles and even cover up their eyes in the process, they are really easy to use and require no awkward set-up.
What Others Have Mentioned –
“I’m so happy that I delved into my fantasy and bought this wonderful set. These are fast becoming a staple accessory for us in the bedroom. The possibilities are endless!”
I recommend a ball gag when you’re a little more comfortable with the whole rough sex roleplay routine. They are so kinky and really do make for some fun but they can look a little intimidating.
The idea is that nobody will be able to hear your screams and moans of pleasure, which is, of course, essential when it comes to rough sex foreplay, role-play and sex. This ball gag offers you full restraint, an adjustable strap and a comfortable fit on most heads.
More Opinions From Users –
“While it’s bigger than a beginner’s gag, the slight give in the material makes it so your jaw isn’t too strained and so you can dig your teeth in slightly (perfect for more intense sessions) without the risk of damaging your teeth. The leather around the neck is sturdy and comfortable as it’s not rigid.
I definitely need to increase the use of this in the bedroom but from current experience, I personally wouldn’t consider getting a different type of ball gag.”
Bend, twist and penetrate your other half however you wish with this amazing restraint. It keeps legs and arms in place whilst you orgasm and have intercourse.
Having such a little control can drive people into absolute ecstasy and this position master does just that. It’s the ultimate rough sex tool, it keeps your partner in unique positions for as long as you both want. It features a neck support, adjustable ankle cuffs and faux fur wrist cuffs so that not only are you comfy but you are pushed to your limits.
More Opinions From Buyers –
“This is a great way of taking the next step but still with control. Great product with good quality material.”
This sex machine is the toy of all toys. It allows you to not only penetrate and be penetrated at an impressive speed but it allows you to simulate a threesome and all sorts of other games.
Have your partner give you oral pleasure whilst you sit on this bad boy or vice versa. It also never loses stamina and will bring you to climax time and time again, whilst all your partner can do is watch on or get involved too.
What Other Reviewers Have Mentioned –
“I would highly recommend this machine to anyone looking for one that works well for both men and women. It looks cool, it felt great for both of us and it can make so many fantasy scenarios a reality.”
This flogger is non-intimidating and is for experimenting sensory play. You can gently stroke it across your partner’s body, sending them into waves of delight and pleasure or by ‘lashing’ them with the flogger sending them into sensory overload.
Whip your submissive into submission with a light flogger.
Thoughts From Other Buyers –
“The flogger is robust and lightweight for all types of play, whether your into a hard spanking or light teasing this is perfect. We used this and even a hard flogging didn’t cause any marks on my wife’s derrière.”
With almost 1000 amazing reviews, this bullet vibrator is one of the best you can get. It makes for some pretty hot and heavy foreplay, teasing your partner and being in total control of their orgasm. I actually did a whole article dedicated to this vibrator that you should totally check out: The Best Bullet Vibrator Ever
As I mentioned before, rough sex isn’t just about the actual sex, to be a really great lover we have to master all aspects and know that once they are begging for you, you accomplished phase one of great and rough sex.
What Others Have Said –
“We use it a lot. I’m surprised it’s not worn out yet, which just goes to show the quality of the product too. It’s lasted a long time and still going strong.”
Designed with the rough, kinky sex of fifty shades of grey in mind, this 7 piece couples sex kit is perfect for bondage beginners and advanced lovers alike.
With 7 different toys to play with, you can do as you please and experience a load of wild thrills at just the touch of your fingertips. This is a great value for money kit as you are getting 7 very sought after sex toys for a fraction of the price of buying them all individually.
Opinions By Other Buyers –
“Even as an advanced toy user it has opened my eyes to new sensations and added some extra kink to my already spicy sex life. If you are a straight couple that loves to try something new in the bedroom, I just couldn’t recommend this set more.”
Restraint is one of the key elements of great, rough sex. You can tie your partner up in whichever way you please. This rope is also extremely visually pleasing for the kinkier couples out there.
Become a master of all sorts of knots and restraint scenarios and really experience what it’s like to be dominated and lose all control.
More Opinions –
“Very strong and wouldn’t say they would break under human strength. We have used them fairly regularly with no mishaps.”
As hard as you want to go at it, this nifty cock ring has got you covered. The strap helps the penis to stay erect and harder for longer, whilst the vibrations not only pleasure the penis but they send wild passionate vibrations to her clitoris. You’ll never want to remove yourself from one another once you give this bionic bullet a whirl.
Because this cock ring is so awesome I did a whole article dedicated to it then I recommend you read up on if you were thinking about investing in this cock ring: The cock ring I can’t live without.
You may also want sex toy’s that are a little discreet for those living in a busy house, just check out our top 10 discreet sex toys of the year.
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I hope you have found some tips that will help you out in your rough sex endeavour, have a great day.