If you’re here you are as kinky as me and you know how damn good it feels to experiment and play with candles. Many people don’t even realize they like it until the thought of that warm wax teasing their skin and sending shivers down their spine overwhelms them and they realize just what they have been missing out on. I enjoy wax play all year round and I am also a bit of a candle fanatic (sexual and non-sexual) and I want to show you my candy shop of BDSM candles to give you some waxy inspiration.

What Is Wax Play?

Wax play is for those who enjoy temperature play, the wax gives a subtle burning sensation which feels incredible when done correctly. The candles used during wax play aren’t your usual store-bought candles they are specialist, however I have gone into that more below.

Wax play is usually performed in a BDSM context, used to tease, punish, arouse and control your partner. Temperature play isn’t just subject to candles you can experiment with types of sex toys that can be submerged into warm water or put into the fridge and using wax is just another way for people to play with temperature, specifically heat.

It’s very arousing when done right, the sensation of the hot wax being poured onto bare skin is shocking yet pleasurable. It is an erotic experience whereby you are at the mercy of the one pouring the wax.

Picking The Right Candle (Warnings)

Just picking up the nearest candle you have and hoping for the best is a huge no with wax play. The candle you use must be body-safe, chemical-free and your candle must burn at a much lower temperature than your average household candle.

You’re not trying to burn yourself with the wax, you are trying to arouse your partner with hot wax and give them skin-tingling sensations, a normal candle won’t do that, it will burn.

I love wax play as does my partner however I am very strict on the candles we use as nothing would kill the mood more than having a 3rd-degree burn. Using the proper candle and the right wax ensures wax play is fun, arousing and alluring.

All of the candles I mention below meet my strict criteria and all are safe for wax play.

The Best BDSM Wax Play Massage Candles (Body Safe)

I love these candles, I love that you get three in a pack, I love that you can swap the flavors for whatever you are feeling that day and I love that they are also ideal for massages too. These candles are enriched with essential oils and botanicals which make them smell so good and feel so soft and delicious on your skin.

Why These Candles Rock (Massage Oil and Edible)

They are ideal for those looking to drizzle some hot wax onto their partner, not just that though they are also so soft and nourishing that you can use these candles to massage your partner and they are also edible so you can lick them sweet spots clean.

I find the size perfect for me as I can keep them anywhere in my home and take them away with us without arousing any suspicion. They also come with a lid which may seem like an odd thing to like but I love it as it stops any dirt and debris being collected into the wax if you haven’t used them for a while.

As the hot wax is poured you can rub it into your partner’s skin which then turns into oil so it’s a delight not to have to clean up candle wax after every session.

Something else I love is the fact that you can choose from three different flavors every night which adds a new element each time you play, you’re not just stuck with one smell. These candles also don’t burn you, they get warm enough to stay body-safe and cause-effect when drizzled onto skin however they don’t burn, unlike regular candles.

These Candles Are Completely Vegan, Chemical Free, Drug-Free and Cruelty-Free

Another added bonus about these candles is that they are chemical-free, drug-free and cruelty-free which not only is great for you and your skin but it does mean they are ethical which is always great.

One of the main reasons you can’t just use any household candle, aside from the heat, is that they are loaded with chemicals and other nasty ingredients which make them bad for your skin, these wax candles are even edible which you couldn’t say about most candles around your home.

Because they are loaded with botanicals and essential oils they also make your skin ultra-smooth and nourished, so they do serve so many multi-purposes.

My Other Waxplay Candles

These are the other candles I love to use, I have a real mix of sex candles and I’m sure you will start your own collection, the ones below really stand out in my collection.

CBD Daily Massage Candle (For Gentle Wax Play)

This massage candle doesn’t leave any sticky residue on your body, it heats up to the perfect temperature and it smells amazing. Infused with peppermint, rosemary, and CBD oil your skin is left silky smooth and ready to party. Cruelty-free and ideal for massages and wax play, if you love CBD products and want something that’s good for your skin and your bedroom antics, this candle is gorgeous.

This Collection Of BDSM Candles (From Amazon)

This set of candles comes in 7 different vibrant colors so you can play and tease your partner with whichever color you feel is best. They burn at a lower temperature which is around 54c (104f) to prevent burning and discomfort, they melt into a delicate dripping stick that you can ooze onto your partner’s body however you wish.

These candles are also made from environmentally friendly soybean wax and they are infused with botanical oils so you know there’s nothing irritating being put onto your skin.

The Full Guide To Wax Play

It’s important to do it properly so I am going to give you an in-depth guide on how to enjoy and experiment with wax play below. If you have any questions or anything to add please leave it in the comments below because I love hearing from you.

Start With A Sensual Massage

My partner and I like to kick things off by having a massage, it really turns us both on and it means our sensitive nerve endings are piqued and ready for the hot wax. If you have the candles like me that turn into massage oil it’s great because you can scoop out a small amount and then use that as a massage oil or even pour a tiny amount of the wax on and use that as the oil. Having a sensual massage beforehand is key for us and definitely I would recommend doing.

Put Down Some Stainproof Sheets (What I Do)

One side of this throw is velvety soft and silky smooth whilst the other side is made from fluffy microfibre technology meanwhile the inside is made from a moisture barrier making sure your bedding stays dry. It’s ideal to lay down on and use with wax as although most of my candles are non-sticky, the moisture can transfer onto bedding and when things get hot and heavy we have all had a wet patch or two, this is an ideal throw to keep you comfortable and dry, especially during wax play.

Use Bed Restraints

Bed restraints are the ideal addition to wax play as they really play on the BDSM theme of wax play. By keeping your partner restrained you can pour the wax as you please and tease them into submission. These restraints are sturdy and they can be placed under virtually any bed, making them ideal for whatever your needs.

Light Your BDSM Candle

First things first light your candle and pop it in a safe place, it shouldn’t take long to start melting the wax but it needs a little time to get going.

Best Body Parts To Melt The Wax On

Everyone likes different things but you are most likely going to love hot wax across your stomach, chest, nipples, legs, inner thighs and if you really must on your genitalia but never inside (this can cause infection). It feels amazing to just test your partner, see where they react the best and understand what feels good for them and for you.

Add Stimulating (Cock, Pussy, Butt)

Add a cock ring, vibrator or butt plug to really vamp things up during wax play, the combined stimulation of the hot wax and g-spot, clitoral or anal stimulation feels amazing. Sometimes I even like to ride my partner whilst pouring the hot wax, try it, it’s sensational.

Add Some BDSM Gloves

Add in a little BDSM style and become the master of wax play with these rubber latex long gloves, they look seriously sexy and add a sense of mystery and roleplay to playing with candles.

Thank you for reading,

Kelly xoxo